I can’t take full credit for this, although I did edit it.  H/T Gerinomo 

WORRY

Is there a magic cutoff period when

Offspring become accountable for their own

Actions?? Is there a wonderful moment when

Parents can become detached spectators in

The lives of their children and shrug, “It’s

Their life,” and feel nothing?

When I was in my twenties, I stood in a hospital

Corridor waiting for doctors to put a few

Stitches in my daughter’s head.? I asked, “When do

You stop worrying?”? The nurse said,

“When they get out of the accident stage.”? My

Dad just smiled faintly and said nothing.

When I was in my thirties, I sat on a little

Chair in a classroom and heard how one of my

Children talked incessantly, disrupted the class,

And was headed for a career making

License plates.? As if to read my mind, a teacher

Said, “Don’t worry, they all go through

This stage and then you can sit back, relax and

Enjoy them.”? My dad just smiled

Faintly and said nothing.

When I was in my forties, I spent a lifetime

Waiting for the phone to ring, the cars to come

Home, the front door to open.? A friend said,

“They’re trying to find themselves.? Don’t worry,

In a few years, you can stop worrying.? They’ll be

Adults.”? My dad just smiled faintly

And said nothing.

By the time I was 50, I was sick & tired of being

Vulnerable.? I was still worrying over my

Children, but there was a new wrinkle.? There

Was nothing I could do about it.? My

Dad just smiled faintly and said nothing.? I

Continued to anguish over their failures, be

Tormented by their frustrations and absorbed in

Their disappointments.

My friends said that when my kids got married I

Could stop worrying and lead my own

Life.? I wanted to believe that, but I was

Haunted by my dad’s warm smile and his

Occasional, “You look pale.? Are you all right??

Call me the minute you get home.? Are

You depressed about something?”

?

Can it be that parents are sentenced to a

Lifetime of worry?? Is concern for one another

Handed down like a torch to blaze the trail of

Human frailties and the fears of the

Unknown?? Is concern a curse or is it a virtue

That elevates us to the highest form of life?

?

One of my children became quite irritable

Recently, saying to me, “Where were you?? I’ve been

Calling for 3 days, and no one answered. I was

worried.”

I smiled a warm smile.?

The torch has been passed.

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